Severe Disability: A womans' opinion?

Well i'm not sure anyone knows this, being as i'm a unassuming quiet poster, if you will, but i have late stage duchenne muscular dystrophy: ie, cant breathe on my own, walk, eat by mouth, lift or move my limbs, etc.

anyways to be honest it makes me a bit self-conscious about myself and i lose confidence when thinking about my dependence, becoming a burden and not being able to satisfy a woman, etc. so i'm wondering how women feel about being with a severely disabled guy so i might understand what to focus on to attract a woman.

I think if a woman is in love, it won't matter what your disabilities are. If my husband were to become disabled tomorrow, I'd do whatever I could to take care of him. I'd do it out of love.

If I were single and met someone disabled, I'd know full ahead of time what would be involved. If a woman truly loves you, no disability would stand in the way.

Just be yourself, that's all you should do.

I agree with the poster above.

If a woman can't accept you for who you are then she isn't worth keeping around in the first place.

There are plenty of severely and moderately disabled people who've gotten married, gotten jobs, had kids, etc.

Have you checked out E Harmony or any of the sister sites? Don't brush that thought off, if you haven't, I'd check it out. Sometimes, getting to know someone on the internet through text and pictures, being FORCED to communicate, one can develop a relationship that is more than just skin deep.


Anyway, good luck to ya man.

Very brave I must say for anyone to dip their toes into the dating pool. It's not something I would want to do again.

I would say that a sense of humor can win women over to any guy. The funny guy is never alone, as long is he is genuinely good humored. So if you have a positive attitude, and can tell a great joke, I'd say keeping women interested shouldn't be a problem.

Best of luck!

There's a guy I saw in one of the pubs I like to visit who was pretty badly disabled. He seemed to be attracting women left and right with his humour. He even had me in stitches laughing... I obviously wasn't attracted to him though, just to clear that up.

Not being a women myself, I would think that in their eye's, seeing a guy who obviously has difficulties with things, yet is able to laugh and joke is a huge plus, I think, and is probably a very attractive trait to have.

On a similar topic, there's a guy I know who, to be polite, isn't exactly the slimmest or best-looking of people but yet he can "pull" some really beautiful women. I have no idea how he does it but it's great to see people who are so far up their arse's look at him and think, "WTF?!". He's like my "pulling" guru!

Told ya. A great sense of humor can make literally anyone into Casanova.

check your u2us - no wait it doesnt work. umm do some online research and you will find your answer and i would be optimistic to say the least.

[edit on 28-9-2008 by Arsenio Hall]