Extramarital Dating

There are lots of ads for Extramarital Dating websites, including on ATS. Does anyone actually use those? Sounds immoral, and lazy.

Have you used one?

reply to post by UFOpsychiczebra

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OK, lets assess the response here from ATS members. over 90 views and no replies ... some of you probably don't want to out yourself for using those sites eth? lol.

As I said before, I can't believe people actually use those sites.

But someone at ATS must?

I have not and probably would not. One man is difficult enough to deal with, why would I want two?

But seriously, one of my best friends and her husband are swingers and I don't see it as immoral as long as both partners are in agreement.

I could be wrong about this, but, I thought that those Extramarital sites were only for married people looking for an extra marital affair, not for swingers? I suppose swingers could use those sites but wouldn't most people looking for an extra marital affair be looking for one person not a couple?

Just to clarify I wasn't stating that swingers are immoral or not, consenting adults with consenting adults is their business. However, someone lying and cheating on their partner is immoral. If you're not happy at home get out. Don't cheat using internet sites.

Well an extramarital affair is having a relationship outside of your marriage, so swingers are included in that.

But I see where you are getting at and yes I agree that is immoral. However I also believe in the saying "There's an exception to every rule" and I am sure there are reasons for having an affair that may not be moral but where I couldn't say that I might not do the same thing if I were in the same situation.

Know what I mean?

Only in a pedantic sense. But, I think most understand it in the common usage sense.



Even if your reasons are not 'immoral' to you it doesn't mean that your subsequent actions are not immoral. But surely lying and cheating behind the back of a person you made vows to just to get some sex is immoral whatever the reasons are that you are doing it?

After all, if you are unhappy with the relationship you can walk away. Having an affair is basically wanting your cake and eating it. What exception could there be to make that kind of behaviour of good moral standards?

Again this is a situation where it is really hard for you to understand unless you are in another persons shoes and you need to keep your mind open to the pssibility.

Some people do not feel like they can walk away from an unhappy marriage. They feel like they are obligated to stay in their unhappy marriage for whatever reasons. Some feel that they can not leave because of children, money, parental pressure, combined assets...whatever.

Yes some people cheat because they are have loose morality in general but I think there are many people who have never done anything immoral in their life become tempted to cheat when their relationship is bad. Even though it is not right and not moral to do so, if you haven't been in that situation, you can't say that you wouldn't be tempted to do the same thing.